to communicate better, to “fight” better,
and help get valid needs met. Conflict is
inevitable, combat is optional
By nurturing friendship, maintaining passion
and attachment/connection, couples can
remember why they fell in love in the first place.
begin the process of loving and trusting again
Let’s take some intentional time and just focus on YOU,
to help bring the best YOU forward to lean into your
life and personal and professional relationships
Counselling Services for Couples, Families, Individuals, and Professionals
Meet Jeff Hay
I have worn many hats in my life including husband/father of 4, motivational speaker, professional writer, parenting coach, blogger, radio personality, professional MC/DJ, and many more. Perhaps most importantly, I am also a certified counsellor with the BCACC.
My education spans many years. While “life” has been my greatest teacher with children and a blended family, I have a Bachelor of Applied Health Studies from the University of Waterloo (minor in Psychology), a Broadcasting Degree from BCIT, and most recently, a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology from Yorkville University. Along with being a certified facilitator of Personality Dimensions workshops, most recently, I also completed my Level 3 training as a Gottman Couples Therapist, my Level 1 RLT (Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real) and my Externship for EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy with Sue Johnson).
I specialize in the following areas
Couples Relationship Counselling
Individuals Relationship Counselling
Family & Parenting Counselling
Professional Development Counselling
Separation & Divorce Counselling
Experts Who Inspire me
Jeff with Brené Brown
Jeff with Terry Real
Jeff with Sue Johnson
Jeff with Julie Gottman
Philosophy
Although you can read more details in my Approach, my main areas of focus and interest are couples, relationships, and divorce. I provide client centered services utilizing the Gottman Method Couples Therapy (GMCT), some Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT – or ‘stinking thinking’ as some call it), and Solution Focused Therapy.
While that all sounds very academic, I am a genuine people-person who loves helping. I want to help couples and families work through difficult moments, stay connected, and lead fulfilling lives. Together, let’s figure out where you are now, and where you want to be. I hope my sense of humour and non-judgmental approach will make me a good fit for you as a very engaging and effective counsellor.
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