Now offering secure online counselling sessions.

This could be a good time to delve deeper into your most important relationships.


Is Couples/Relationship Therapy right for you and your partner?


I WANT TO give my couples HOPE by teaching skills
to communicate better, to “fight” better,
and help get valid needs met. Conflict is
inevitable, combat is optional
I HELP my couples maintain or rediscover their SPARK.
By nurturing friendship, maintaining passion
and attachment/connection, couples can
remember why they fell in love in the first place.
I HELP couples rebuild lost trust after betrayal and
begin the process of loving and trusting again
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Kelowna BC I HELP individuals in their relationships and professional life.
Let’s take some intentional time and just focus on YOU,
to help bring the best YOU forward to lean into your
life and personal and professional relationships

Counselling Services for Couples, Families, Individuals, and Professionals

Meet Jeff Hay

I have worn many hats in my life including husband/father of 4, motivational speaker, professional writer, parenting coach, blogger, radio personality, professional MC/DJ, and many more. Perhaps most importantly, I am also a certified counsellor with the BCACC.

My education spans many years. While “life” has been my greatest teacher with children and a blended family, I have a Bachelor of Applied Health Studies from the University of Waterloo (minor in Psychology), a Broadcasting Degree from BCIT, and most recently, a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology from Yorkville University. Along with being a certified facilitator of Personality Dimensions workshops, most recently, I also completed my Level 3 training as a Gottman Couples Therapist.

Relationship, Couples, Marriage Counselling Kelowna

I specialize in the following areas

Experts Who Inspire me

Relationship Counsellor Kelowna - Jeff Hay with Brené Brown

Jeff with Brené Brown

Relationship Counsellor Kelowna - Jeff Hay with Terry Real

Jeff with Terry Real

Relationship Counsellor Kelowna - Jeff Hay with Sue Johnson

Jeff with Sue Johnson

Relationship Counsellor Kelowna - Jeff Hay with Julie Gottman

Jeff with Julie Gottman

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Although you can read more details in my Approach, my main areas of focus and interest are couples, relationships, and divorce. I provide client centered services utilizing the Gottman Method Couples Therapy (GMCT), some Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT – or ‘stinking thinking’ as some call it), and Solution Focused Therapy.

While that all sounds very academic, I am a genuine people-person who loves helping. I want to help couples and families work through difficult moments, stay connected, and lead fulfilling lives. Together, let’s figure out where you are now, and where you want to be. I hope my sense of humour and non-judgmental approach will make me a good fit for you as a very engaging and effective counsellor.

Free Consultation!

I offer Free Consultations to see if I am a good fit for you and if we have a good connection.

Couples Counselling Kelowna

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