While I do take notes, as we sit together, I sit in a chair of extreme non-judgment. I want to try and understand the current state of your relationship. My wife and I also behave poorly when we forget to use our skills and tools. I would never want to feel judged when we sit with our own therapist when our own relationship needs maintenance.
As we sit together in our initial sessions, I do want to examine two things to get a sense of your relationship status: today and tomorrow. I want to get a snapshot of TODAY. I want to look at how you and your partner talk to one another, show up for one another, and treat one another. I need to better understand what is working well and what is not working at all.
I also want to get a sense of what you hope the outcome is of our time together: what do you want from therapy? What are your therapy or treatment goals (although I don’t love calling them ‘treatment goals’ as that sounds very clinical), but I need to know your session expectations. Let’s talk today about what a better tomorrow looks like!